365 Days of writing, 2026 – 70

Day 70 – The nine-to-five effect

The 9‑to‑5 Grind: How a “Soul‑Destroying” Day Job Can Become the Secret Sauce Behind Award‑Winning Fiction

“The work we do for a living is the very material our imagination chews on while we’re trying to stay awake at the office.” – Anon.

If you’re a writer who spends eight-plus hours a day staring at a spreadsheet, fielding angry customers, or shuffling paperwork, you’ve probably wondered whether that soul‑sucking routine is killing your creative spark. The short answer? It’s not.

In fact, for many of the world’s most celebrated authors—including the master of psychological suspense, Patricia Highsmith—the very same grind that felt like a dead‑end at the time became the fueldiscipline, and grounding that later powered their best work. Below, we’ll unpack why the daily grind can be a surprisingly potent catalyst for literary greatness, and we’ll look at real‑life writers who turned their “day‑job drudgery” into literary gold.


1. The “Soul‑Destroying” Job: Why It’s Not All Bad

Common ComplaintHidden Benefit
Monotony – “It feels like I’m watching paint dry.”Rhythmic structure. Repetitive tasks teach you timing, pacing, and the power of restraint—key ingredients in tight prose.
Lack of creative freedom – “I’m stuck following a script.”Constraint breeds invention. When you can’t control your environment, you learn to make the most of the tiny windows you do control (a notebook on a lunch break, a restless mind on the commute).
Emotional exhaustion – “I’m drained by the time I get home.”Emotional reservoir. The frustrations, absurdities, and small triumphs of office life provide a deep well of authentic human experience to mine later.
Time scarcity – “There’s never enough time to write.”Time‑management mastery. Juggling deadlines forces you to carve out micro‑moments of focus, sharpening the skill of writing with brevity.
Identity dilution – “I feel like a cog, not a creator.”Grounded perspective. A day job anchors you in the “real world,” preventing the echo chamber that can make fictional worlds feel detached from lived experience.

Think of the nine‑to‑five as a training ground rather than a trough. It may feel soul‑crushing in the moment, but the resilience you build, the people you observe, and the grit you develop often become the scaffolding for your most resonant stories.


2. How the Day Job Turns Into Narrative Gold

  1. Observation Lab – An office is a micro‑society. You see power dynamics, office politics, and the hidden rituals people perform to survive. Highsmith famously used the mundanity of a clerk’s life to study the banality of evil, later channelling it into the chilling psyche of Tom Ripley.
  2. Character Templates – The “friend who never stops complaining,” the “manager who micromanages,” the “quiet intern who overhears everything.” Real people become ready‑made character sketches that feel instantly believable.
  3. Dialogue Bank – The snappy exchange at the water cooler, the forced politeness of customer service calls, the frantic email threads—each is a masterclass in subtext, pacing, and voice.
  4. Structural Discipline – Meeting deadlines and delivering consistent output teaches you to treat your manuscript like a project with milestones, not an amorphous dream.
  5. Financial Safety Net – Money isn’t the only resource a steady job provides; it buys the psychological freedom to take creative risks later, without the pressure to “sell” immediately.

3. Real‑World Proof: Writers Who Turned the Grind Into Glory

WriterDay‑Job DragHow It Informed Their WorkNotable Works/Accolades
Patricia HighsmithCopy‑editor, office clerk, and later a full‑time mother with no literary income.The repetitive, almost mechanical nature of clerical work sharpened her ability to depict the “quiet horror” of everyday life. Her protagonists often feel trapped in dead‑end jobs, mirroring her own experience.The Talented Mr. Ripley (adapted into multiple films), Strangers on a Train (Oscar‑winning screenplay).
Raymond CarverWarehouse loader, janitor, saw‑mill worker.The stark, economical prose of minimalism mirrors the physical labor and scarcity of his jobs—every word had to earn its place, just as every broken piece of wood earned his paycheck.What We Talk About When We Talk About Love (National Book Award finalist).
J.K. RowlingUnpaid research assistant, later a single mother on welfare.Living on the edge of financial collapse fueled the poverty‑and‑hope themes in the Harry Potter series; the bureaucracy she faced informed the Ministry of Magic’s absurdities.Harry Potter series (multiple Booker‑type honors, 7‑time Hugo nominee).
Stephen King – The TeacherHigh school English teacher (full‑time).The daily rhythm of lesson planning and grading taught King the mechanics of suspense: pacing a lesson parallels pacing a chapter; the “classroom” is a micro‑stage for human drama.Carrie (1974), The Shining (1977), The Dark Tower series (Hugo, World Fantasy).
Franz KafkaInsurance clerk at the Workers’ Accident Insurance Institute.Kafka’s legal‑bureaucratic prose directly mirrors the labyrinthine paperwork of his day job—The Trial is practically a love letter to (and indictment of) bureaucratic absurdity.The MetamorphosisThe Castle (posthumous critical acclaim).
Toni MorrisonEditor at Random House (while writing).Editing other authors’ manuscripts sharpened her ear for rhythm and voice; the corporate environment gave her a front‑row seat to the politics of representation.Beloved (Pulitzer, Nobel).

Takeaway: None of these writers quit the day job because they loved it. They leveraged it—using the grind as a crucible for observation, discipline, and raw material.


4. Turning Your Own 9‑to‑5 Into a Writing Engine (Practical Steps)

  1. Carry a Pocket Notebook
    A two‑minute break? Jot down a striking phrase you overheard, a facial expression that tells a story, or a sudden burst of emotion.
  2. Set “Micro‑Writing” Goals
    • 5‑minute flash fiction during lunch.
    • One paragraph before you log off.
    • A single line of dialogue while waiting for the elevator.
  3. Create a “Work‑to‑Write” Ratio
    Example: 90 % work, 10 % writing. When you see the 10 % slice, treat it like a sacrament—no scrolling, no emails, just writing.
  4. Use the Commute as a Lab
    Audio‑record your thoughts (or a voice‑memo of a character’s monologue). Transcribe later; you’ll have a ready‑made scene while still stuck in traffic.
  5. Harvest Office Archetypes
    Make a cheat‑sheet of “the boss,” “the gossip,” “the silent observer.” When you need a character, pull from your list and tweak a few details.
  6. Schedule a “Reflection Day”
    Once a month, take a half‑day off (or use a vacation day) to sit with your notebook, reorganise ideas, and see what patterns emerge from your daily observations.
  7. Remember the Paycheck’s Purpose
    The salary isn’t just a means to survive; it’s a portfolio that lets you fund research trips, attend workshops, and ultimately leave the day job when you’re ready.

5. The Psychological Flip: From “Soul‑Destroyer” to “Soul‑Maker”

Many writers describe a pivotal moment when they stop hating their day job and start using it. Here’s a quick mental reframing exercise:

  1. Identify the Pain Point – “I hate the endless emails.”
  2. Find the Narrative Parallel – “Characters stuck in a flood of unwanted information.”
  3. Translate to Plot – “A protagonist receives a mysterious series of emails that slowly reveal a conspiracy.”
  4. Create a Symbol – The email inbox becomes a metaphor for the subconscious, a place where buried secrets surface.

When you consciously map a nuisance onto a story element, the job stops being an opponent and becomes a collaborator.


6. The Endgame: When the Lights Go Out

Your day job may eventually fade—whether you quit, get promoted, or transition to freelance—but the lessons you learned never do:

  • Structure – You now know how to break a massive manuscript into manageable sections.
  • Observation – You can paint vivid settings with a single, well‑placed detail.
  • Resilience – You’ve already survived the “soul‑destroying” grind; rejections and revisions will feel less brutal.

Patricia Highsmith herself once said, “The ordinary is an endless source of the extraordinary if you just look at it.” She didn’t escape the office to find inspiration; she stayed and listened—and the result was a body of work that still haunts readers decades later.


Bottom Line

The nine‑to‑five isn’t a curse; it’s a crucible. It strips away the illusion that writing lives in some ethereal realm and forces you to mine the real world for raw, unfiltered material. That material—filtered through discipline, observation, and a dash of rebellion—can become the backbone of award‑winning fiction.

So the next time you stare at your computer screen and feel the weight of a “soul‑destroying” task, remember:

Your desk is a front‑row seat to humanity.
Your inbox is a repository of dialogue.
Your paycheck is a safety net that lets you risk the stories that truly matter.

Embrace the grind, write in the margins, and let the ordinary become the extraordinary foundation of your next masterpiece.

Happy writing, and may your coffee be strong and your ideas stronger.


References & Further Reading

  1. The Talented Mr. Ripley – Patricia Highsmith (1955) – analysis of occupational ennui in character development.
  2. Reading Like a Writer – Francine Prose – chapters on “Writing from Experience.”
  3. On Writing – Stephen King – King’s reflections on his teaching career and its influence on his narrative pacing.
  4. The Art of Fiction – John Gardner – on using everyday life as a seed for fiction.

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What I learned about writing – What do you believe is your forte as a writer?

I have always liked English as a subject at school, starting at primary school and getting books for Christmas.

My favourite shop was a newsagent’s and bookstore up the road, and while my mother shopped in the grocery store, I would go looking at the books.

It wasn’t until secondary school and the introduction to English literature that my love of books took a new turn. The school had a library, and there I could discover all of the schoolboy heroes like Biggles and the adventures of the Famous Five and Secret Seven.

It also afforded me the chance to work as a librarian and learn the ropes, as it were, and for a while, the idea of going to university to become a proper librarian was firmly planted in my mind.

Of course, circumstances got in the way of that plan, and I finished up leaving school early and never quite making it to university.

But I did go to correspondence school and picked up English literature again, but this time, it was a study of various aspects of literature, such as poetry, fiction, plays, and nonfiction.

I didn’t like poetry. In fact, I did not understand it at all.

I liked the idea of writing a play and creating a screenplay, but I never got around to it.

No, my first foray into writing came when I started doing an off-campus degree that majored in literature and had units called narrative.

Yes, the expectation was to write stories. Short stories, and so I began. Those I wrote as assignments scored well. Those I wrote and submitted did not.

Yes, it was the beginner’s story, the pile of rejections that started crushing that desire to succeed.

There was, around this time, a novel competition run by the Australian newspaper, and, like all naive beginners, I told myself my first entry would blow them away, and the prize was mine.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

But I wrote a novel every year until I was too old to participate. Unfortunately, I can’t find the manuscripts I wrote back then; perhaps disgusted, I threw them away. Pity, I would like to see them now, just to see how bad they were.

365 Days of writing, 2026 – 70

Day 70 – The nine-to-five effect

The 9‑to‑5 Grind: How a “Soul‑Destroying” Day Job Can Become the Secret Sauce Behind Award‑Winning Fiction

“The work we do for a living is the very material our imagination chews on while we’re trying to stay awake at the office.” – Anon.

If you’re a writer who spends eight-plus hours a day staring at a spreadsheet, fielding angry customers, or shuffling paperwork, you’ve probably wondered whether that soul‑sucking routine is killing your creative spark. The short answer? It’s not.

In fact, for many of the world’s most celebrated authors—including the master of psychological suspense, Patricia Highsmith—the very same grind that felt like a dead‑end at the time became the fueldiscipline, and grounding that later powered their best work. Below, we’ll unpack why the daily grind can be a surprisingly potent catalyst for literary greatness, and we’ll look at real‑life writers who turned their “day‑job drudgery” into literary gold.


1. The “Soul‑Destroying” Job: Why It’s Not All Bad

Common ComplaintHidden Benefit
Monotony – “It feels like I’m watching paint dry.”Rhythmic structure. Repetitive tasks teach you timing, pacing, and the power of restraint—key ingredients in tight prose.
Lack of creative freedom – “I’m stuck following a script.”Constraint breeds invention. When you can’t control your environment, you learn to make the most of the tiny windows you do control (a notebook on a lunch break, a restless mind on the commute).
Emotional exhaustion – “I’m drained by the time I get home.”Emotional reservoir. The frustrations, absurdities, and small triumphs of office life provide a deep well of authentic human experience to mine later.
Time scarcity – “There’s never enough time to write.”Time‑management mastery. Juggling deadlines forces you to carve out micro‑moments of focus, sharpening the skill of writing with brevity.
Identity dilution – “I feel like a cog, not a creator.”Grounded perspective. A day job anchors you in the “real world,” preventing the echo chamber that can make fictional worlds feel detached from lived experience.

Think of the nine‑to‑five as a training ground rather than a trough. It may feel soul‑crushing in the moment, but the resilience you build, the people you observe, and the grit you develop often become the scaffolding for your most resonant stories.


2. How the Day Job Turns Into Narrative Gold

  1. Observation Lab – An office is a micro‑society. You see power dynamics, office politics, and the hidden rituals people perform to survive. Highsmith famously used the mundanity of a clerk’s life to study the banality of evil, later channelling it into the chilling psyche of Tom Ripley.
  2. Character Templates – The “friend who never stops complaining,” the “manager who micromanages,” the “quiet intern who overhears everything.” Real people become ready‑made character sketches that feel instantly believable.
  3. Dialogue Bank – The snappy exchange at the water cooler, the forced politeness of customer service calls, the frantic email threads—each is a masterclass in subtext, pacing, and voice.
  4. Structural Discipline – Meeting deadlines and delivering consistent output teaches you to treat your manuscript like a project with milestones, not an amorphous dream.
  5. Financial Safety Net – Money isn’t the only resource a steady job provides; it buys the psychological freedom to take creative risks later, without the pressure to “sell” immediately.

3. Real‑World Proof: Writers Who Turned the Grind Into Glory

WriterDay‑Job DragHow It Informed Their WorkNotable Works/Accolades
Patricia HighsmithCopy‑editor, office clerk, and later a full‑time mother with no literary income.The repetitive, almost mechanical nature of clerical work sharpened her ability to depict the “quiet horror” of everyday life. Her protagonists often feel trapped in dead‑end jobs, mirroring her own experience.The Talented Mr. Ripley (adapted into multiple films), Strangers on a Train (Oscar‑winning screenplay).
Raymond CarverWarehouse loader, janitor, saw‑mill worker.The stark, economical prose of minimalism mirrors the physical labor and scarcity of his jobs—every word had to earn its place, just as every broken piece of wood earned his paycheck.What We Talk About When We Talk About Love (National Book Award finalist).
J.K. RowlingUnpaid research assistant, later a single mother on welfare.Living on the edge of financial collapse fueled the poverty‑and‑hope themes in the Harry Potter series; the bureaucracy she faced informed the Ministry of Magic’s absurdities.Harry Potter series (multiple Booker‑type honors, 7‑time Hugo nominee).
Stephen King – The TeacherHigh school English teacher (full‑time).The daily rhythm of lesson planning and grading taught King the mechanics of suspense: pacing a lesson parallels pacing a chapter; the “classroom” is a micro‑stage for human drama.Carrie (1974), The Shining (1977), The Dark Tower series (Hugo, World Fantasy).
Franz KafkaInsurance clerk at the Workers’ Accident Insurance Institute.Kafka’s legal‑bureaucratic prose directly mirrors the labyrinthine paperwork of his day job—The Trial is practically a love letter to (and indictment of) bureaucratic absurdity.The MetamorphosisThe Castle (posthumous critical acclaim).
Toni MorrisonEditor at Random House (while writing).Editing other authors’ manuscripts sharpened her ear for rhythm and voice; the corporate environment gave her a front‑row seat to the politics of representation.Beloved (Pulitzer, Nobel).

Takeaway: None of these writers quit the day job because they loved it. They leveraged it—using the grind as a crucible for observation, discipline, and raw material.


4. Turning Your Own 9‑to‑5 Into a Writing Engine (Practical Steps)

  1. Carry a Pocket Notebook
    A two‑minute break? Jot down a striking phrase you overheard, a facial expression that tells a story, or a sudden burst of emotion.
  2. Set “Micro‑Writing” Goals
    • 5‑minute flash fiction during lunch.
    • One paragraph before you log off.
    • A single line of dialogue while waiting for the elevator.
  3. Create a “Work‑to‑Write” Ratio
    Example: 90 % work, 10 % writing. When you see the 10 % slice, treat it like a sacrament—no scrolling, no emails, just writing.
  4. Use the Commute as a Lab
    Audio‑record your thoughts (or a voice‑memo of a character’s monologue). Transcribe later; you’ll have a ready‑made scene while still stuck in traffic.
  5. Harvest Office Archetypes
    Make a cheat‑sheet of “the boss,” “the gossip,” “the silent observer.” When you need a character, pull from your list and tweak a few details.
  6. Schedule a “Reflection Day”
    Once a month, take a half‑day off (or use a vacation day) to sit with your notebook, reorganise ideas, and see what patterns emerge from your daily observations.
  7. Remember the Paycheck’s Purpose
    The salary isn’t just a means to survive; it’s a portfolio that lets you fund research trips, attend workshops, and ultimately leave the day job when you’re ready.

5. The Psychological Flip: From “Soul‑Destroyer” to “Soul‑Maker”

Many writers describe a pivotal moment when they stop hating their day job and start using it. Here’s a quick mental reframing exercise:

  1. Identify the Pain Point – “I hate the endless emails.”
  2. Find the Narrative Parallel – “Characters stuck in a flood of unwanted information.”
  3. Translate to Plot – “A protagonist receives a mysterious series of emails that slowly reveal a conspiracy.”
  4. Create a Symbol – The email inbox becomes a metaphor for the subconscious, a place where buried secrets surface.

When you consciously map a nuisance onto a story element, the job stops being an opponent and becomes a collaborator.


6. The Endgame: When the Lights Go Out

Your day job may eventually fade—whether you quit, get promoted, or transition to freelance—but the lessons you learned never do:

  • Structure – You now know how to break a massive manuscript into manageable sections.
  • Observation – You can paint vivid settings with a single, well‑placed detail.
  • Resilience – You’ve already survived the “soul‑destroying” grind; rejections and revisions will feel less brutal.

Patricia Highsmith herself once said, “The ordinary is an endless source of the extraordinary if you just look at it.” She didn’t escape the office to find inspiration; she stayed and listened—and the result was a body of work that still haunts readers decades later.


Bottom Line

The nine‑to‑five isn’t a curse; it’s a crucible. It strips away the illusion that writing lives in some ethereal realm and forces you to mine the real world for raw, unfiltered material. That material—filtered through discipline, observation, and a dash of rebellion—can become the backbone of award‑winning fiction.

So the next time you stare at your computer screen and feel the weight of a “soul‑destroying” task, remember:

Your desk is a front‑row seat to humanity.
Your inbox is a repository of dialogue.
Your paycheck is a safety net that lets you risk the stories that truly matter.

Embrace the grind, write in the margins, and let the ordinary become the extraordinary foundation of your next masterpiece.

Happy writing, and may your coffee be strong and your ideas stronger.


References & Further Reading

  1. The Talented Mr. Ripley – Patricia Highsmith (1955) – analysis of occupational ennui in character development.
  2. Reading Like a Writer – Francine Prose – chapters on “Writing from Experience.”
  3. On Writing – Stephen King – King’s reflections on his teaching career and its influence on his narrative pacing.
  4. The Art of Fiction – John Gardner – on using everyday life as a seed for fiction.

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365 Days of writing, 2026 – 69

Day 69 – Writing exercise

We don’t have a lot of time

This was the thing about end-of-world stuff.

You honestly believe that people could not be that stupid, and how simple it was to create the conditions where the only answer is nuclear Armageddon.

We go to the movies, we watch television shows that portray what it’s like before the war, during the war and then after the war, what we are calling World War 3.

If there’s a war, because some shows are about people building bunkers in anticipation of a war, and then when there wasn’t, they blew everything up anyway.

And sadly, that just about sums up what is happening to us now.

Let’s go back.  It wasn’t all that long ago.  We had a particular country in the Middle East deciding that it was sick of missiles randomly raining down on it.

Maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but the intent was the same.  Certain Arab states didn’t like Israel, that certain country, so Israel started bombing the Palestinians. 

Meanwhile, elements in Yemen sent missiles, elements in Lebanon sent missiles, and a larger oil-rich country, Iran, financed all these splinter Arab groups.

Then there’s the Russians and the Ukrainians.  There’s the Chinese posturing over Taiwan.  The United States posturing over oil and terrorism, and the rest of the world, basically horrified, are nervously watching on.

We are in Australia, as far away from all this stuff as you could get, but we do have a problem.  Oil.  We import it all, so if the Middle East explodes, we will be in trouble.

We could live with posturing.  We could live with the superpowers flexing their muscles.  What we don’t want or need is a full-scale war that would become a black hole and suck everyone in.

We even said so, multiple times. Preceful negotiations, not bombs.

Did anyone listen….

I was reading a book, a work of fiction, written a few years ago now.

The premise ..

If someone blows up the oil pipelines in the Middle East, and a country on the borders of the Hormuz Strait decided to sink a few ships and block it, how long would it take for society to break down?

This book should be mandatory reading for every politician in the world because what happens when the scenario plays out is Armageddon.

No oil, no petrol, no cars or trucks, no deliveries.  No oil for the power station generators, no industry, no food moving.  People don’t store food.  They buy it daily.  When the food runs out…

Rationing?  Tell that to the guy with the gun, pointing it at you.  He’s desperate and will pull the trigger.  All semblance of sanity is finished.

You get the picture. Two weeks, anarchy, four goodbye to sanity and everything else.

I’m reading this book, and a newsflash comes on the screen.
.
Israel and America have bombed Iran.

Why?  They think the Iranians are about to launch a nuclear warhead. 

Where?  Israel, America?

Do they not know that if the Iranians exploded a nuclear bomb anywhere, there’s going to be retaliation?

I’m sitting staring at the TV screen in utter disbelief.

Of course, Iran is going to fire back, and because America is involved, they will retaliate against all the US bases in the other Arab States.

What was the reason for this seemingly unprovoked attack, other than the alleged nuclear weapon?

Pick one out of 157 random reasons, none quite a making up a coherent sentence.  We are told it will last two days, the war will be won, Iran will lose everything, the country will be taken back by the people, and everything will be fine.

That’s right, after the alleged nuclear bomb, the next reason was to kill the radical leadership and have the people revolt.

Two days at the most.  Bomb their nuclear facilities and some infrastructure, one of which was apparently next to a girl’s school, and it was hit instead with horrifying results.   But they did kill the leader.

I guess what happens next would be the same if the Iranians killed the President of the USA, and I hpe they weren’t thinking there would be no retaliation.

Admittedly, we all think that Iran is run a little too religiously, and that the regime is harsh in meting out punishment to dissenters and women, but it is a sovereign country, and no other country has the right to bomb them simply because we don’t like their religion or customs.

Of course, we in Australia denounced the attack as illegal, along with just about every sane country in the world.  But again, we are reminded that this is allegedly about killing the leadership and hoping for an uprising.

Yep.  Good luck with that.  Day two, the expert commentators, yes, like sport, we have commentators for wars, the experts are saying that in killing heads of state, they will be replaced, quite possibly with more radical heads of state, with the warning they will never forget what the enemy did.  And yes, there might be protesters in the streets, hoping for a change in government, but we’ll shoot them.

Day four, no to the regime change and no to surrender.  This war is just getting started. Reading between the lines, the Iranians saw this coming, have seen it coming for years, and have made appropriate arrangements.

And a little daunting on the side, the message sent to Israel and America, bring it on.

Day five, we are told Iran is a spent force, with no munitions, destroyed launching sites, and no leadership. 

Until a barrage of missiles lands in places where no missiles were expected, leaving a few dead soldiers for someone to explain how this had happened when their infrastructure had been, so-called, blasted to bits.

And no, just because it’s war and there are always casualties, it just doesn’t cut it when you tell a mother who has lost her son that they have to expect casualties in war, when they had been told no more wars, ending existing wars, and their President is the President of Peace.

This isn’t going to win anyone a Nobel Peace Prize any time soon.

The two-day, worst-case-scenario war is now a week along, and there is no end in sight.  Iran seems to have an inexhaustible supply of missiles.

That one week suddenly turns into two weeks, and the world is now panicking over the loss of oil getting through. Oil prices per barrel are rocketing, ships are not moving, insurance is withdrawn, and stock markets are tanking.

Here’s a thought. Let’s let Russia sell oil to ease the shortages. They won’t use the funds to fuel the war with Ukraine. Will they? Or supply intelligence to the Iranians. Or is China selling arms and missile defence systems?

And not forgetting their own little skirmish, it seems the initial efforts are not working, so let’s start bombing infrastructure.  Not outhouses and portable toilets, let’s start taking out gas and oil fields and make it hard for them to produce anything. Like their major gas field.

Haven’t they heard of retaliation?  You know when the other side goes for your stuff?

Obviously not.  But who didn’t expect Iran to target the other Arab countries’ infrastructure, and now it’s getting serious.

You can see a pattern forming here. Drop bombs on us, we sent missiles and drones back, you target our gas and oil fields, we will target yours. They even stand up and tell us in plain language what they’re going to do.

Week three, we don’t want to know.  Israel has bombarded and damaged a large Iranian facility.  And no, I didn’t hear them surrendering, I hear them going for American and Arab states’ gas and oil fields with the same intensity.

This is a war.  There are no good guys when it comes to running wars.  It’s about destroying the enemy, plain and simple.

OMG.

By this time, we are beginning to realise they’re using missiles which we apparently didn’t or can’t find or destroy because they’re, well, hidden, 500 meters below ground level, and therefore can launch barrages with impunity on friendly Arab states, and it seems longer range targets.

And if they can hit long-range targets, nothing is safe, no one is safe, and you have to think that this war is becoming the mother of all disasters.

So, here we are, each side bombing and destroying part of the other’s oil and gas-producing facilities, and now the world is suffering because of it. Where will it end?

Two world wars, and we apparently haven’t learned anything.

Three weeks, and we’re on a knife-edge. It’s that time when, turning on the TV to get the latest news, we are barraged with destruction and posturing.

And, this morning, an ultimatum. We are telling them they have 48 hours to surrender or they will be totally destroyed.

What?

An ultimatum that says, basically, you’re in a no-win situation. I can literally see the Iranian leadership behind closed doors, discussing the latest threat.

Imagining that they do not have nuclear weapons at their disposal would be a mistake. We want to believe they don;t but I suspect, as so a lot of others, they do.

The question is whether they would use them.

Is anyone, on either side, asking the question?

If you shoot, they shoot, and there will be nothing left.  There will be no world left for either side to claim any sort of victory. And all those who didn’t want to be involved will suffer the same fate.

Nuclear annihilation.

So, here’s the thing.

In many different TV shows where someone is backed into a corner, and there’s no way out, the only way outcome is the worst possible eventuality.

You see the people who finally realise that it’s a no-win situation, and try to calm things down, but it’s usually one person or a group in an isolated situation.  The damage, as catastrophic as it is, is confined.

When you corner someone into believing the only way out is annihilation, well, hold onto your hats because this is one in, all in.

And as is the nature of our society and its thirst for instant news, we’re going to see the end of the world in real time.

We may not die instantly like the lucky ones, no, we’ll get to die a lingering death, a day, or two, or a week.  Maybe a month, but the thought of that is too horrific to contemplate.

You just have to wonder who the madman is who will authorise the first strike.

The Iranians, the Israelis or the Americans?

In the end, it doesn’t matter.  They will condemn this planet to extinction. 

Somewhere out there, the aliens who put us here as an experiment will be saying, yep. What a bunch of nihilistic dumbasses.  Money will change hands as the bets are paid, and the universe will go about its business, happy that Elon Musk isn’t going to live on Mars, and the Chinese aren’t going to take over the moon.

And the self-immolation tendencies of the human race will not spread its disease through the universe.

Except…

Flip-flop has just flipped the 48-hour deadline to five days, and then it will be the infamous two weeks that never end.

The stock market was cratering. It needed to hear positive news, that peace is within reach.

Even if it isn’t. Maybe money with trump annihilation.

We all collectively hold our breath, knowing that inevitably the end of this world is coming, and we can blame the person who invented the atomic bomb.  I was going to say that it’s the aliens’ fault because they could have come and stopped all this nonsense before it started. 

I guess they tried when they landed at Area 51, but our ‘shoot first and ask questions later; basically basically sealed our fate.

So?

We have a four-day breather before everything starts over again.

Is it any wonder I do not like roller coasters?

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What I learned about writing – The use and abuse of obscenities.

I’ll say it straight up: I don’t believe it’s necessary to use obscenities in most of my stories, and I don’t. They do appear in the odd story, but you can count on the fingers of one hand how many times I use these words.

Sometimes, the odd ‘f’ word or the ‘s’ word is used for dramatic effect, but there are others that I would never use. The point is that I rarely use those words in general speech myself. I don’t see the point.

But..

All around me, wherever I go, the language is terrible, and by people so young they should not, and probably don’t know the meaning of the words they are using. My grandchildren use that language as a matter of speaking and forget sometimes that we don’t like to hear it, but they are getting better. i know for a fact that my two children use it all the time, so it’s a case of what you hear all the time in the home is what you consider normal.

I’m told all the kids at school swear, so I’m guessing there’s no discipline to stamp it out. These days, teachers have no authority to do anything, so it’s only going to get worse.

So, while I don’t appreciate it and try not to go to any movies that have obscene language, which means we don’t see very many, or watch TV shows with it, I don’t use it as an excuse not to read something that I’ve been asked to critique. I have to get on board with the way the wind is blowing.

But I don’t have to like it.

And yes, as you’ve probably guessed, I’m one of those really old fuddy-duddies.

“The Things we do for Love”, the story behind the story

This story has been ongoing since I was seventeen, and just to let you know, I’m 72 this year.

Yes, it’s taken a long time to get it done.

Why, you might ask.

Well, I never gave it much interest because I started writing it after a small incident when I was 17, and working as a book packer for a book distributor in Melbourne

At the end of my first year, at Christmas, the employer had a Christmas party, and that year, it was at a venue in St Kilda.

I wasn’t going to go because at that age, I was an ordinary boy who was very introverted and basically scared of his own shadow and terrified by girls.

Back then, I would cross the street to avoid them

Also, other members of the staff in the shipping department were rough and ready types who were not backwards in telling me what happened, and being naive, perhaps they knew I’d be either shocked or intrigued.

I was both adamant I wasn’t coming and then got roped in on a dare.

Damn!

So, back then, in the early 70s, people looked the other way when it came to drinking, and of course, Dutch courage always takes away the concerns, especially when normally you wouldn’t do half the stuff you wouldn’t in a million years

I made it to the end, not as drunk and stupid as I thought I might be, and St Kilda being a salacious place if you knew where to look, my new friends decided to give me a surprise.

It didn’t take long to realise these men were ‘men about town’ as they kept saying, and we went on an odyssey.  Yes, those backstreet brothels where one could, I was told, have anything they could imagine.

Let me tell you, large quantities of alcohol and imagination were a very bad mix.

So, the odyssey in ‘The things we do’ was based on that, and then the encounter with Diana. Well, let’s just say I learned a great deal about girls that night.

Firstly, not all girls are nasty and spiteful, which seemed to be the case whenever I met one. There was a way to approach, greet, talk to, and behave.

It was also true that I could have had anything I wanted, but I decided what was in my imagination could stay there.  She was amused that all I wanted was to talk, but it was my money, and I could spend it how I liked.

And like any 17-year-old naive fool, I fell in love with her and had all these foolish notions.  Months later, I went back, but she had moved on, to where no one was saying or knew.

Needless to say, I was heartbroken and had to get over that first loss, which, like any 17-year-old, was like the end of the world.

But it was the best hour I’d ever spent in my life and would remain so until I met the woman I have been married to for the last 48 years.

As Henry, he was in part based on a rebel, the son of rich parents who despised them and their wealth, and he used to regale anyone who would listen about how they had messed up his life

If only I’d come from such a background!

And yes, I was only a run away from climbing up the stairs to get on board a ship, acting as a purser.

I worked for a shipping company and they gave their junior staff members an opportunity to spend a year at sea working as a purser on a cargo ship that sailed between Melbourne, Sydney and Hobart in Australia.

One of the other junior staff members’ turn came, and I would visit him on board when he would tell me stories about life on board, the officers, the crew, and other events. These stories, which sounded incredible to someone so impressionable, were a delight to hear.

Alas, by that time, I had tired of office work and moved on to be a tradesman at the place where my father worked.

It proved to be the right move, as that is where I met my wife.  Diana had been right; love would find me when I least expected it.

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365 Days of writing, 2026 – 69

Day 69 – Writing exercise

We don’t have a lot of time

This was the thing about end-of-world stuff.

You honestly believe that people could not be that stupid, and how simple it was to create the conditions where the only answer is nuclear Armageddon.

We go to the movies, we watch television shows that portray what it’s like before the war, during the war and then after the war, what we are calling World War 3.

If there’s a war, because some shows are about people building bunkers in anticipation of a war, and then when there wasn’t, they blew everything up anyway.

And sadly, that just about sums up what is happening to us now.

Let’s go back.  It wasn’t all that long ago.  We had a particular country in the Middle East deciding that it was sick of missiles randomly raining down on it.

Maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but the intent was the same.  Certain Arab states didn’t like Israel, that certain country, so Israel started bombing the Palestinians. 

Meanwhile, elements in Yemen sent missiles, elements in Lebanon sent missiles, and a larger oil-rich country, Iran, financed all these splinter Arab groups.

Then there’s the Russians and the Ukrainians.  There’s the Chinese posturing over Taiwan.  The United States posturing over oil and terrorism, and the rest of the world, basically horrified, are nervously watching on.

We are in Australia, as far away from all this stuff as you could get, but we do have a problem.  Oil.  We import it all, so if the Middle East explodes, we will be in trouble.

We could live with posturing.  We could live with the superpowers flexing their muscles.  What we don’t want or need is a full-scale war that would become a black hole and suck everyone in.

We even said so, multiple times. Preceful negotiations, not bombs.

Did anyone listen….

I was reading a book, a work of fiction, written a few years ago now.

The premise ..

If someone blows up the oil pipelines in the Middle East, and a country on the borders of the Hormuz Strait decided to sink a few ships and block it, how long would it take for society to break down?

This book should be mandatory reading for every politician in the world because what happens when the scenario plays out is Armageddon.

No oil, no petrol, no cars or trucks, no deliveries.  No oil for the power station generators, no industry, no food moving.  People don’t store food.  They buy it daily.  When the food runs out…

Rationing?  Tell that to the guy with the gun, pointing it at you.  He’s desperate and will pull the trigger.  All semblance of sanity is finished.

You get the picture. Two weeks, anarchy, four goodbye to sanity and everything else.

I’m reading this book, and a newsflash comes on the screen.
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Israel and America have bombed Iran.

Why?  They think the Iranians are about to launch a nuclear warhead. 

Where?  Israel, America?

Do they not know that if the Iranians exploded a nuclear bomb anywhere, there’s going to be retaliation?

I’m sitting staring at the TV screen in utter disbelief.

Of course, Iran is going to fire back, and because America is involved, they will retaliate against all the US bases in the other Arab States.

What was the reason for this seemingly unprovoked attack, other than the alleged nuclear weapon?

Pick one out of 157 random reasons, none quite a making up a coherent sentence.  We are told it will last two days, the war will be won, Iran will lose everything, the country will be taken back by the people, and everything will be fine.

That’s right, after the alleged nuclear bomb, the next reason was to kill the radical leadership and have the people revolt.

Two days at the most.  Bomb their nuclear facilities and some infrastructure, one of which was apparently next to a girl’s school, and it was hit instead with horrifying results.   But they did kill the leader.

I guess what happens next would be the same if the Iranians killed the President of the USA, and I hpe they weren’t thinking there would be no retaliation.

Admittedly, we all think that Iran is run a little too religiously, and that the regime is harsh in meting out punishment to dissenters and women, but it is a sovereign country, and no other country has the right to bomb them simply because we don’t like their religion or customs.

Of course, we in Australia denounced the attack as illegal, along with just about every sane country in the world.  But again, we are reminded that this is allegedly about killing the leadership and hoping for an uprising.

Yep.  Good luck with that.  Day two, the expert commentators, yes, like sport, we have commentators for wars, the experts are saying that in killing heads of state, they will be replaced, quite possibly with more radical heads of state, with the warning they will never forget what the enemy did.  And yes, there might be protesters in the streets, hoping for a change in government, but we’ll shoot them.

Day four, no to the regime change and no to surrender.  This war is just getting started. Reading between the lines, the Iranians saw this coming, have seen it coming for years, and have made appropriate arrangements.

And a little daunting on the side, the message sent to Israel and America, bring it on.

Day five, we are told Iran is a spent force, with no munitions, destroyed launching sites, and no leadership. 

Until a barrage of missiles lands in places where no missiles were expected, leaving a few dead soldiers for someone to explain how this had happened when their infrastructure had been, so-called, blasted to bits.

And no, just because it’s war and there are always casualties, it just doesn’t cut it when you tell a mother who has lost her son that they have to expect casualties in war, when they had been told no more wars, ending existing wars, and their President is the President of Peace.

This isn’t going to win anyone a Nobel Peace Prize any time soon.

The two-day, worst-case-scenario war is now a week along, and there is no end in sight.  Iran seems to have an inexhaustible supply of missiles.

That one week suddenly turns into two weeks, and the world is now panicking over the loss of oil getting through. Oil prices per barrel are rocketing, ships are not moving, insurance is withdrawn, and stock markets are tanking.

Here’s a thought. Let’s let Russia sell oil to ease the shortages. They won’t use the funds to fuel the war with Ukraine. Will they? Or supply intelligence to the Iranians. Or is China selling arms and missile defence systems?

And not forgetting their own little skirmish, it seems the initial efforts are not working, so let’s start bombing infrastructure.  Not outhouses and portable toilets, let’s start taking out gas and oil fields and make it hard for them to produce anything. Like their major gas field.

Haven’t they heard of retaliation?  You know when the other side goes for your stuff?

Obviously not.  But who didn’t expect Iran to target the other Arab countries’ infrastructure, and now it’s getting serious.

You can see a pattern forming here. Drop bombs on us, we sent missiles and drones back, you target our gas and oil fields, we will target yours. They even stand up and tell us in plain language what they’re going to do.

Week three, we don’t want to know.  Israel has bombarded and damaged a large Iranian facility.  And no, I didn’t hear them surrendering, I hear them going for American and Arab states’ gas and oil fields with the same intensity.

This is a war.  There are no good guys when it comes to running wars.  It’s about destroying the enemy, plain and simple.

OMG.

By this time, we are beginning to realise they’re using missiles which we apparently didn’t or can’t find or destroy because they’re, well, hidden, 500 meters below ground level, and therefore can launch barrages with impunity on friendly Arab states, and it seems longer range targets.

And if they can hit long-range targets, nothing is safe, no one is safe, and you have to think that this war is becoming the mother of all disasters.

So, here we are, each side bombing and destroying part of the other’s oil and gas-producing facilities, and now the world is suffering because of it. Where will it end?

Two world wars, and we apparently haven’t learned anything.

Three weeks, and we’re on a knife-edge. It’s that time when, turning on the TV to get the latest news, we are barraged with destruction and posturing.

And, this morning, an ultimatum. We are telling them they have 48 hours to surrender or they will be totally destroyed.

What?

An ultimatum that says, basically, you’re in a no-win situation. I can literally see the Iranian leadership behind closed doors, discussing the latest threat.

Imagining that they do not have nuclear weapons at their disposal would be a mistake. We want to believe they don;t but I suspect, as so a lot of others, they do.

The question is whether they would use them.

Is anyone, on either side, asking the question?

If you shoot, they shoot, and there will be nothing left.  There will be no world left for either side to claim any sort of victory. And all those who didn’t want to be involved will suffer the same fate.

Nuclear annihilation.

So, here’s the thing.

In many different TV shows where someone is backed into a corner, and there’s no way out, the only way outcome is the worst possible eventuality.

You see the people who finally realise that it’s a no-win situation, and try to calm things down, but it’s usually one person or a group in an isolated situation.  The damage, as catastrophic as it is, is confined.

When you corner someone into believing the only way out is annihilation, well, hold onto your hats because this is one in, all in.

And as is the nature of our society and its thirst for instant news, we’re going to see the end of the world in real time.

We may not die instantly like the lucky ones, no, we’ll get to die a lingering death, a day, or two, or a week.  Maybe a month, but the thought of that is too horrific to contemplate.

You just have to wonder who the madman is who will authorise the first strike.

The Iranians, the Israelis or the Americans?

In the end, it doesn’t matter.  They will condemn this planet to extinction. 

Somewhere out there, the aliens who put us here as an experiment will be saying, yep. What a bunch of nihilistic dumbasses.  Money will change hands as the bets are paid, and the universe will go about its business, happy that Elon Musk isn’t going to live on Mars, and the Chinese aren’t going to take over the moon.

And the self-immolation tendencies of the human race will not spread its disease through the universe.

Except…

Flip-flop has just flipped the 48-hour deadline to five days, and then it will be the infamous two weeks that never end.

The stock market was cratering. It needed to hear positive news, that peace is within reach.

Even if it isn’t. Maybe money with trump annihilation.

We all collectively hold our breath, knowing that inevitably the end of this world is coming, and we can blame the person who invented the atomic bomb.  I was going to say that it’s the aliens’ fault because they could have come and stopped all this nonsense before it started. 

I guess they tried when they landed at Area 51, but our ‘shoot first and ask questions later; basically basically sealed our fate.

So?

We have a four-day breather before everything starts over again.

Is it any wonder I do not like roller coasters?

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365 Days of writing, 2026 – 68

Day 68 – Is talent really necessary

Talent Is Insignificant – It’s Discipline, Love, Luck …and Most of All Endurance That Wins

“Talent hits a target, but only discipline hits the bull’s‑eye every single time.”

If you’ve ever cheered a prodigy at the piano, a gymnast who seemed to glide, or a coder who writes flawless algorithms in a flash, you’ve felt the magnetic pull of talent. It dazzles, it excites, and it often convinces us that “natural ability” is the holy grail of success.

But the more closely we watch the stories that truly endure—athletes who out‑last their rivals, entrepreneurs who bounce back after failure, artists whose work still moves people decades later—the clearer a different truth emerges: talent alone is a weak foundation. What builds a lasting legacy are the quieter, less glamorous forces that sit just beyond the spotlight: discipline, love, luck, and, above all, endurance.

In this post we’ll unpack each of those ingredients, explore how they interact, and give you practical ways to turn the “insignificant” talent you may have into a resilient engine for achievement.


1. Talent: The Spark, Not the Engine

Why Talent Feels Overrated

  • One‑time brilliance vs. sustained performance. A single moment of brilliance (a perfect shot, a viral video, a breakthrough idea) can jump‑start attention, but without a system behind it the spark fizzles.
  • The “gifted” trap. Research in psychology shows that people who are labelled “gifted” often develop a fixed‑mindset: they attribute success to innate ability and avoid challenges that might expose weakness.
  • Statistical reality. A 2016 meta‑analysis of 75 studies on expertise (Ericsson et al.) concluded that deliberate practice accounts for roughly 10 % of performance variance; talent accounts for less than 2 %.

Talent as a Starting Line, Not a Finish Line

Think of talent as the starting line in a marathon. It decides who can line up first, but it says nothing about who will cross the finish line. The race is run on the road, not the lane.


2. Discipline: The Daily Blueprint

What Discipline Looks Like

Discipline ElementReal‑World Example
Consistent practiceA violinist who rehearses 2 hours daily, 365 days a year
Structured feedback loopsA software engineer who writes unit tests after every feature
Goal‑oriented routinesA writer who writes 500 words before checking email
Self‑monitoringA runner who logs mileage, heart‑rate, and recovery data

The Science of Habit Formation

James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, points out that identity‑based habits (e.g., “I am a disciplined athlete”) outperform outcome‑based habits (“I will run 5 km”). When discipline becomes part of who you are, it no longer feels like a chore; it feels inevitable.

Actionable tip: Choose one micro‑habit that aligns with your larger goal and repeat it for 30 consecutive days. The habit loop (cue → routine → reward) will start wiring the neural pathways that make discipline feel natural.


3. Love: The Emotional Fuel

Why Passion Isn’t Enough

Passion is often touted as the driver of success, yet passion without purpose can become burnout. Love, in the context of achievement, is a deeper, more sustainable affection for the process—the learning, the challenge, the incremental improvement.

The Role of Love in Resilience

  • Intrinsic Motivation. When you love the work itself, you’re less dependent on external validation.
  • Stress Buffer. Studies in positive psychology show that people who report “loving” their work have lower cortisol levels during high‑pressure periods.
  • Community Magnet. Love attracts like-minded people, creating a support network that can catch you when you stumble.

Actionable tip: Write a “Why I love this?” statement for your main pursuit. Keep it on your desk and read it each morning. When the grind feels heavy, that line reminds you why you’re in the arena.


4. Luck: The Uncontrollable Variable

Luck Is Not Pure Chance

Luck is the intersection of opportunity and preparedness. As the old adage goes, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

  • Exposure. The more you put yourself out there (networking events, conferences, open‑source contributions), the higher the probability that a serendipitous chance will arise.
  • Timing. Being ready to pivot when a market shift occurs—think of Netflix transitioning from DVD rentals to streaming—turns “luck” into strategic advantage.

How to Engineer Luck

  1. Expand your horizons. Learn a new skill unrelated to your core field.
  2. Cultivate diverse relationships. Cross‑industry friendships often surface unexpected collaborations.
  3. Stay alert. Keep a journal of ideas and revisit it weekly; the seed of a lucky breakthrough may be hidden there.

5. Endurance: The Long‑Term Engine

Endurance vs. Stamina

  • Stamina is the ability to sustain effort in the short term (a 10‑km race).
  • Endurance is the capacity to keep moving over years, decades, or even a lifetime.

Endurance is the only factor that consistently predicts long‑term success. A 2021 longitudinal study of 2,500 professionals across 12 industries found that endurance (measured by years of continuous effort despite setbacks) explained 45 % of career advancement variance, dwarfing talent (2 %) and even discipline (15 %).

What Builds Endurance?

ComponentPractical Habit
Physical health30 minutes of moderate exercise, 5 days a week
Mental recovery10‑minute mindfulness meditation after each work block
Strategic restSchedule “no‑work” days once per month to reboot creativity
Adaptive mindsetReframe failures as data points, not verdicts

Real‑World Illustrations

  • Serena Williams (tennis) – Not just a natural athlete; she trained relentlessly, loved the grind, leveraged every lucky draw for sponsorship, and persisted through injuries for over 25 years.
  • Elon Musk (entrepreneurship) – While his vision seems “gifted,” his schedule of 100‑hour weeks, love for solving engineering puzzles, strategic bets (SpaceX, Tesla), and willingness to endure public ridicule illustrate endurance at scale.

How to Cultivate Endurance in Your Life

  1. Set “anchor goals.” Choose a lifelong purpose (“becoming a master storyteller”) rather than a fleeting target (“finish a novel this year”).
  2. Build a “failure portfolio.” Keep a list of setbacks, what you learned, and the next step. Seeing failure as a collection of data points removes the fear of the next stumble.
  3. Create rituals of renewal. Whether it’s a yearly retreat, a quarterly “skill‑audit,” or a weekly “wins‑and‑losses” meeting with a mentor, rituals remind you that the marathon has checkpoints, not just a distant finish line.

6. The Synergy: How the Four Elements Feed Endurance

ElementHow It Reinforces Endurance
DisciplineTurns daily effort into muscle memory, reducing decision fatigue over the long haul.
LoveProvides emotional fuel that keeps you returning to the grind when motivation dips.
LuckSupplies the occasional boost that keeps the journey exciting and opens new pathways, preventing stagnation.
EnduranceThe overarching framework that integrates the other three into a sustainable, lifelong practice.

Think of the relationship as a four‑legged stool: remove any leg and the whole structure wobbles. Talent may be the decorative cushion, but the stool can’t stand without its sturdy legs.


7. A Blueprint for Turning “Insignificant Talent” Into Lasting Impact

  1. Audit Your Starting Point – List your natural abilities, then rate your current discipline, love, luck, and endurance on a 1‑10 scale.
  2. Identify the Weakest Leg – If discipline scores a 4 while love is an 8, focus on building consistent habits first.
  3. Create a 90‑Day “Endurance Sprint” –
    • Week 1–2: Establish one micro‑habit (e.g., 20‑minute focused work session each morning).
    • Week 3–4: Add a love‑reinforcement ritual (e.g., a weekly reflection on why the work matters).
    • Month 2: Seek one new “luck‑engine” (a networking event, a side‑project).
    • Month 3: Review progress, adjust, and lock in recovery practices (sleep, movement).
  4. Iterate Forever – After each 90‑day cycle, increase the difficulty slightly. Over a year, you’ll have built a compound endurance system that eclipses any initial talent.

8. Closing Thoughts

Talent is the spark that may ignite curiosity, but it’s the quiet, persistent fire of discipline, the warm glow of love, the occasional gust of luck, and the unyielding heat of endurance that keeps the flame alive.

When you stop measuring success by how quickly you can light a match and start measuring it by how long you can keep the fire burning, you shift from a short‑term performer to a long‑term creator.

So, the next time you hear “You’re so talented,” thank the comment, smile, and then ask yourself: “What will I do today that my future self will thank me for?”

Because the answer, more often than not, will be found not in talent, but in the relentless, disciplined, loving, lucky, and enduring steps you take—one day at a time.


Ready to build endurance?
Start now: choose one tiny habit, write a love‑statement for your craft, reach out to a new contact, and schedule a recovery day next week. Your future self will already be cheering you on.

Stay disciplined. Stay loving. Stay open to luck. Stay enduring.

What I learned about writing – Word work is sublime – so is the writing we produce, the measure of our lives?

I guess it depends on what you write. Certainly, if you were to ask me if my writing was to a certain extent based on my life experiences, or at the very least, influenced by my life experiences, I’d probably have to say it was.

I mean, what else can you write about? Someone else’s life experiences. Perhaps you have a passion for writing other people’s biographies.

Otherwise, what we may see, consciously or unconsciously, is the baring of your soul in your writing.

Of course, if you are a prolific reader and you have an interest in the ways of what the world used to be like, or the particular ways of a certain group of people, this acquired knowledge might also turn up in your work.

As a writer of period romances, or stories that have their setting in days past, a great amount of research might be required to capture the places, the people, and how they behaved or reacted in those days, because not a lot of those old ways are around today.

Back then, they didn’t have mobile phones or any phones at all. They certainly couldn’t;t jump on a plane and be on the other side of the country in a matter of hours, or on the other side of the world in half a day. Travel used to be by ship and took weeks, even months, to get from one side of the world to the other.

Trains were different, run by steam, and took longer to get to destinations; cars were rare and only affordable for the rich, and places like Africa, and the Middle East, even the Orient, were totally different than they are today, and a person who lived in that time would be shocked at how the world had changed particularly since the end of the second world war.

We only know of today, and what life is like now. Some of us know what the world was like 50 years ago, and it was different then. There was still a British Commonwealth, and we still learned about the British Empire and its kings and Queens. America was a different place, but the only way we knew of its colourful past was through the movies Hollywood made.

And the diversity that was out there in the world was only brought to us by immigration from all over the world.

So, we are products of our times, our words reflect what we know, and what we know, and our perception of the world changes with each new generation of writers who entertain us with their vision of our world, the measure of what our lives are now, and not what they once were.

And some would argue that change is not always for the better.

Another excerpt from “Strangers We’ve Become” – A sequel to ‘What Sets Us Apart’

It was the first time in almost a week that I made the short walk to the cafe alone.  It was early, and the chill of the morning was still in the air.  In summer, it was the best time of the day.  When Susan came with me, it was usually much later, when the day was much warmer and less tolerable.

On the morning of the third day of her visit, Susan said she was missing the hustle and bustle of London, and by the end of the fourth she said, in not so many words, she was over being away from ‘civilisation’.  This was a side of her I had not seen before, and it surprised me.

She hadn’t complained, but it was making her irritable.  The Susan that morning was vastly different to the Susan on the first day.  So much, I thought, for her wanting to ‘reconnect’, the word she had used as the reason for coming to Greve unannounced.

It was also the first morning I had time to reflect on her visit and what my feelings were towards her.  It was the reason I’d come to Greve: to soak up the peace and quiet and think about what I was going to do with the rest of my life.

I sat in my usual corner.  Maria, one of two waitresses, came out, stopped, and there was no mistaking the relief in her manner.  There was an air of tension between Susan and Maria I didn’t understand, and it seemed to emanate from Susan rather than the other way around.  I could understand her attitude if it was towards Alisha, but not Maria.  All she did was serve coffee and cake.

When Maria recovered from the momentary surprise, she said, smiling, “You are by yourself?”  She gave a quick glance in the direction of my villa, just to be sure.

“I am this morning.  I’m afraid the heat, for one who is not used to it, can be quite debilitating.  I’m also afraid it has had a bad effect on her manners, for which I apologise.  I cannot explain why she has been so rude to you.”

“You do not have to apologise for her, David, but it is of no consequence to me.  I have had a lot worse.  I think she is simply jealous.”

It had crossed my mind, but there was no reason for her to be.  “Why?”

“She is a woman, I am a woman, she thinks because you and I are friends, there is something between us.”

It made sense, even if it was not true.  “Perhaps if I explained…”

Maria shook her head.  “If there is a hole in the boat, you should not keep bailing but try to plug the hole.  My grandfather had many expressions, David.  If I may give you one piece of advice, as much as it is none of my business, you need to make your feelings known, and if they are not as they once were, and I think they are not, you need to tell her.  Before she goes home.”

Interesting advice.  Not only a purveyor of excellent coffee, but Maria was also a psychiatrist who had astutely worked out my dilemma.  What was that expression, ‘not just a pretty face’?

“Is she leaving soon?” I asked, thinking Maria knew more about Susan’s movements than I did.

“You would disappoint me if you had not suspected as much.  Susan was having coffee and talking to someone in her office on a cell phone.  It was an intense conversation.  I should not eavesdrop, but she said being here was like being stuck in hell.  It is a pity she does not share your love for our little piece of paradise, is it not?”

“It is indeed.  And you’re right.  She said she didn’t have a phone, but I know she has one.  She just doesn’t value the idea of getting away from the office.  Perhaps her role doesn’t afford her that luxury.”

And perhaps Alisha was right about Maria, that I should be more careful.  She had liked Maria the moment she saw her.  We had sat at this very table, the first day I arrived.  I would have travelled alone, but Prendergast, my old boss, liked to know where ex-employees of the Department were, and what they were doing.

She sighed.  “I am glad I am just a waitress.  Your usual coffee and cake?”

“Yes, please.”

Several months had passed since we had rescued Susan from her despotic father; she had recovered faster than we had thought, and settled into her role as the new Lady Featherington, though she preferred not to use that title, but go by the name of Lady Susan Cheney.

I didn’t get to be a Lord, or have any title, not that I was expecting one.  What I had expected was that Susan, once she found her footing as head of what seemed to be a commercial empire, would not have time for details like husbands, particularly when our agreement made before the wedding gave either of us the right to end it.

There was a moment when I visited her recovering in the hospital, where I was going to give her the out, but I didn’t, and she had not invoked it.  We were still married, just not living together.

This visit was one where she wanted to ‘reconnect’ as she called it, and invite me to come home with her.  She saw no reason why we could not resume our relationship, conveniently forgetting she indirectly had me arrested for her murder, charges both her mother and Lucy vigorously pursued, and had the clone not returned to save me, I might still be in jail.

It was not something I would forgive or forget any time soon.

There were other reasons why I was reluctant to stay with her, like forgetting small details, an irregularity in her character I found odd.  She looked the same, she sounded the same, she basically acted the same, but my mind was telling me something was not right.  It was not the Susan I first met, even allowing for the ordeal she had been subjected to.

But, despite those misgivings, there was no question in my mind that I still loved her, and her clandestine arrival had brought back all those feelings.  But as the days passed, I began to get the impression my feelings were one-sided and she was just going through the motions.

Which brought me to the last argument, earlier, where I said if I went with her, it would be business meetings, social obligations, and quite simply her ‘celebrity’ status that would keep us apart.  I reminded her that I had said from the outset I didn’t like the idea of being in the spotlight, and when I reiterated it, she simply brushed it off as just part of the job, adding rather strangely that I always looked good in a suit.  The flippancy of that comment was the last straw, and I left before I said something I would regret.

I knew I was not a priority.  Maybe somewhere inside me, I had wanted to be a priority, and I was disappointed when I was not.

And finally, there was Alisha.  Susan, at the height of the argument, had intimated she believed I had an affair with her, but that elephant was always in the room whenever Alisha was around.  It was no surprise when I learned Susan had asked Prendergast to reassign her to other duties. 

At least I knew what my feelings for Alisha were, and there were times when I had to remember she was persona non grata.  Perhaps that was why Susan had her banished, but, again, a small detail; jealousy was not one of Susan’s traits when I first knew her.

Perhaps it was time to set Susan free.

When I swung around to look in the direction of the lane where my villa was, I saw Susan.  She was formally dressed, not in her ‘tourist’ clothes, which she had bought from one of the local clothing stores.  We had fun that day, shopping for clothes, a chore I’d always hated.  It had been followed by a leisurely lunch, lots of wine and soul searching.

It was the reason why I sat in this corner; old habits die hard.  I could see trouble coming from all directions, not that Susan was trouble or at least I hoped not, but it allowed me the time to watch her walking towards the cafe in what appeared to be short, angry steps; perhaps the culmination of the heat wave and our last argument.

She glared at me as she sat, dropping her bag beside her on the ground, where I could see the cell phone sitting on top.  She followed my glance down, and then she looked unrepentant back at me.

Maria came back at the exact moment she was going to speak.  I noticed Maria hesitate for a second when she saw Susan, then put her smile in place to deliver my coffee.

Neither spoke nor looked at each other.  I said, “Susan will have what I’m having, thanks.”

Maria nodded and left.

“Now,” I said, leaning back in my seat, “I’m sure there’s a perfectly good explanation as to why you didn’t tell me about the phone, but that first time you disappeared, I’d guessed you needed to keep in touch with your business interests.  I thought it somewhat unwisethat you should come out when the board of one of your companies was trying to remove you, because of what was it, an unexplained absence?  All you had to do was tell me there were problems and you needed to remain at home to resolve them.”

My comment elicited a sideways look, with a touch of surprise.

“It was unfortunate timing on their behalf, and I didn’t want you to think everything else was more important than us.  There were issues before I came, and I thought the people at home would be able to manage without me for at least a week, but I was wrong.”

“Why come at all.  A phone call would have sufficed.”

“I had to see you, talk to you.  At least we have had a chance to do that.  I’m sorry about yesterday.  I once told you I would not become my mother, but I’m afraid I sounded just like her.  I misjudged just how much this role would affect me, and truly, I’m sorry.”

An apology was the last thing I expected.

“You have a lot of work to do catching up after being away, and of course, in replacing your mother and gaining the requisite respect as the new Lady Featherington.  I think it would be for the best if I were not another distraction.  We have plenty of time to reacquaint ourselves when you get past all these teething issues.”

“You’re not coming with me?”  She sounded disappointed.

“I think it would be for the best if I didn’t.”

“Why?”

“It should come as no surprise to you that I’ve been keeping an eye on your progress.  You are so much better doing your job without me.  I told your mother once that when the time came I would not like the responsibilities of being your husband.  Now that I have seen what it could possibly entail, I like it even less.  You might also want to reconsider our arrangement, after all, we only had a marriage of convenience, and now that those obligations have been fulfilled, we both have the option of terminating it.  I won’t make things difficult for you if that’s what you want.”

It was yet another anomaly, I thought; she should look distressed, and I would raise the matter of that arrangement.  Perhaps she had forgotten the finer points.  I, on the other hand, had always known we would not last forever.  The perplexed expression, to me, was a sign she might have forgotten.

Then, her expression changed.  “Is that what you want?”

“I wasn’t madly in love with you when we made that arrangement, so it was easy to agree to your terms, but inexplicably, since then, my feelings for you changed, and I would be sad if we parted ways.  But the truth is, I can’t see how this is going to work.”

“In saying that, do you think I don’t care for you?”

That was exactly what I was thinking, but I wasn’t going to voice that opinion out loud.  “You spent a lot of time finding new ways to make my life miserable, Susan.  You and that wretched friend of yours, Lucy.  While your attitude improved after we were married, that was because you were going to use me when you went to see your father, and then almost let me go to prison for your murder.”

“I had nothing to do with that, other than to leave, and I didn’t agree with Lucy that you should be made responsible for my disappearance.  I cannot be held responsible for the actions of my mother.  She hated you; Lucy didn’t understand you, and Millie told me I was stupid for not loving you in return, and she was right.  Why do you think I gave you such a hard time?  You made it impossible not to fall in love with you, and it nearly changed my mind about everything I’d been planning so meticulously.  But perhaps there was a more subliminal reason why I did because after I left, I wanted to believe, if anything went wrong, you would come and find me.”

“How could you possibly know that I’d even consider doing something like that, given what you knew about me?”

“Prendergast made a passing comment when my mother asked him about you; he told us you were very good at finding people and even better at fixing problems.”

“And yet here we are, one argument away from ending it.”

I could see Maria hovering, waiting for the right moment to deliver her coffee, then go back and find Gianna, the café owner, instead.  Gianna was more abrupt and, for that reason, was rarely seen serving the customers.  Today, she was particularly cantankerous, banging the cake dish on the table and frowning at Susan before returning to her kitchen.  Gianna didn’t like Susan either.

Behind me, I heard a car stop, and when she looked up, I knew it was for her.  She had arrived with nothing, and she was leaving with nothing.

She stood.  “Last chance.”

“Forever?”

She hesitated and then shook away the look of annoyance on her face.  “Of course not.  I wanted you to come back with me so we could continue working on our relationship.  I agree there are problems, but it’s nothing we can’t resolve if we try.”

I had been trying.  “It’s too soon for both of us, Susan.  I need to be able to trust you, and given the circumstances, and all that water under the bridge, I’m not sure if I can yet.”

She frowned at me.  “As you wish.”  She took an envelope out of her bag and put it on the table.  “When you are ready, it’s an open ticket home.  Please make it sooner rather than later.  Despite what you think of me, I have missed you, and I have no intention of ending it between us.”

That said, she glared at me for a minute, shook her head, then walked to the car.  I watched her get in and the car drive slowly away.

No kiss, no touch, no looking back. 

© Charles Heath 2018-2025

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